If You Want to Find Love You Should Stop Dating

Dating as you may know it is dead.

It wasn’t killed with nostalgia or dating apps but with indecision. The most important thing about marriage that most singles discount is that it’s about making a decision.

Dating is supposed to be a means of making that decision but instead it has transformed to a mere distraction. A way to kill time.

Because of this, dating hasn’t been given the respect it deserves. To think that dating is superfluous or trivial is to ignore the impact to the human experience that it has. Partnership is natural.

Humans are hardwired to build community and family. To crave and seek belonging and familiarity. Dating, today no longer offers any of that. Without noticing humans have behaviorally rejected the concept of dating and society is slowly starting to agree.

Dating used to be a method of decision making. If you want to get married, don’t use dating to do so.

What Does It Mean to Date?

Before the language creates confusion, think about your own definition of dating. To most of society dating means spending time with a stranger in an effort to get to know them for romantic intent.