This Is What We Get Wrong About Dating.

When it comes to finding a partner, or dating, the clichés are overwhelming. Nobody dates anymore. Every day a new article pops up warning the decline of love and marriage. The ruins of relationships are peppered in the news like bodies in a post war zone making it no wonder most adult singles seem to be cynical.

Despite the damaged reputation of dating today, there is a saving grace: reality. The blame of failed relationships doesn’t lie in the year we live in, but in what we get wrong about dating in general.

Dating Is Luck. It’s not.

The thought of the lottery being your financial plan seems absurd but finding love through luck makes sense. You have total control over your love life by the choices you make every day. You determine where you’ll go, how you’ll dress, who you’ll smile at and how open you will be to new interactions. You dictate how you will interpret flirtations or ambivalence. You create your love life.

You create your love life.

Your actions determine the results that you get. More importantly you determine if you will ever learn how to date.

Learning to date is no different than learning a new job or skill. There are best practices and indicators that you can follow for success but most people…