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You’re Not Weak Because You Like Him
Today’s generation operates unlike any before them. In the complicated world of dating, adults today don’t seem as resilient as they once were. In the 70’s and 80’s singles were expected to be tough in order to navigate the challenges of dating, career, sexuality, and empowerment. Being tough never meant pretending that you didn’t have feelings. Being tough meant working past what you felt to do whatever you needed to do.
It meant to act greater than you felt.
Dating has become a place where feelings are no longer acceptable. So much so that being vulnerable becomes interchangeable with experiencing an emotion. In the era of swiping left and right, it’s like singles forgot that those are the faces of real people (you hope). To be someone who cares about others is to be considered weak, not spartan, not a bad bitch, but a simp. To want love is synonymous with ‘being desperate’. The dating ‘game’ has transitioned into an emotional game of chicken.
Whoever shows that they care most loses, creating an environment where acting non emotional or like you couldn’t care less ‘where things are going’ makes you a good dater. In a climate where what you don’t feel is as critical as what you do, how can you stay sane and human while dating?
